Suits Finale.

Finally watched the season finale, so good! This was an interesting episode, almost too much change in 40 min. Definitely a lot of character growth and change in dynamics. Great way to start season 7 fresh, after another lengthy wait…

One of the interesting things that happened was Jessica’s return at the hearing. She used a reference from the Aesop’s Fables Wind and the Sun to turn the committee to her side, after Harvey and Mike has  pulled all of their tricks. This was interesting because the entire series is based on bluffing, corporate deals, being bigger and better to blow others out of the water. This was an absolute change in strategy to use gentleness and let the other party decide on their own accord. The power of gentleness. 

Aside from the shock as an audience of this series and fan of Harvey’s ego, I can see how this is perhaps the better strategy in the long run. It’s not a short term win that backlashes later. Definitely a systemic leadership act to enhance another’s adaptive capacity. Powerful, respectful stuff. 

Reminder to self: It’s what KC would do. 

Leadership #2

After these 2 weeks of reading my leadership textbook, I realized a few more things. 
1. As much as I enjoy my job, I’m not a manager. I want to be a leader. I can’t stand the norm, gotta be awesome and finding ways to be more and not so. Leader is not something assigned or told, it’s something I have to earn and prove. I’m fortunate that my starting point is good, because many people have already given me their trust and respect. I need to take good care of that and deliver on my promises; otherwise, I’ll lose it and never get it back the same. 

2. I have been proficient at teaching people skills or giving opportunities to try things out, but I have not truly let anyone in on my circle. That’s good because they are improving skills wise, but have they become a better person? I can’t say no because I’ve never engaged in feedback and it’s too deep to just observe. Leadership is about increasing one’s capacity; the capabilities will just follow. I need to let go or let more in to give that growing room for others and then just trust the process. What comes out of it will probably be amazing. 

3. I don’t tend to connect with people emotionally or have much compassion. I have very little emotionally resource for myself, let alone others. One of the things about systemic leadership is creating a holding environment for others while maintaining productivity. It is basically being empathetic of their distress but also holding their feet to the fire. I struggle with both currently. This one, I’m trying on a rational level, but I’ll need a little personal development first for the long term win. 

Great learning and reflection. Time to work on it. Deliver! 

Leadership.

This semester, my MBA course is about leadership and organization development. I’m halfway through and it’s been interesting so far. I’ve been introduced to the concept of leadership more than 10 years ago, and I still don’t have a definition or something I can verbalize.

2 points have really struck out so far.
1) There are multiple leadership theories. In systemic leadership, which is the one this text focus on, there is no specific traits, skills, or style that makes a person a leader. There are characteristics, capabilities, and skills that enable us to be a leader if the situation calls for that skillset. It’s probably more accurate to say we all have moments of leadership.
2) Who we see as a leader is a mirror image of ourselves, the follower. We believe they would do what we do in certain circumstances but better than us, thus we cede our power to them. Each person has different values, so who we define as a leader would also differ.

Reflecting on this, I look at who I look up to, whose stories I find fascinating, the blogs I read, there is a common point. Driven. Grit. Point #2 is so true. I’m still struggling to stay organized and build habits to achieve goals, bring ideas and project to completion, deliver.

At the same time, I realized that I can’t be a leader to everyone or keep everyone happy. They resonate on something else. I may not have it. I can find strategies to work together, but I just have to accept I won’t be their hero.

Like the text suggest, and can be logically rationalized, all leaders will eventually fail us anyway. Leaders are only human, meaning they have imperfections also, just like the image they’re mirroring.

An enlightening but tough day.